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Get off-line. Ashley shares how to meet guys in real life. How To Meet Guys In Real Life.
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Inspired by my recent online dating hiatus, I emailed a few friends asking about their experience with how to meet guys in real life (aka IRL for you text-savvy folks). I posed a few crucial questions to my friends and received some great responses and thought that this would make for a great post for what has apparently turned into my dating blog. The resounding result from this survey was that girls need to have some guts to get the guys! Guts = guys! We girls choose not to approach a guy because we’re afraid of rejection (maybe he’s married, maybe he thinks I’m not cute enough, maybe he’ll say no, maybe he’ll be a jerk about it, etc.), but as one guy friend* put it: “If the guy takes it negatively, they probably got bigger drama you wouldn’t want to deal with anyways.†* I also asked a few guy friends to give me their perspective. In the similar words of a girl friend: “One thing […] is that if you think you can’t do that, or you don’t do that (like flirting, or whatever), then you won’t. Making a connection with someone is easy, so long as you put yourself out there and don’t get embarrassed in the process[…]. And if someone is a jerk when you put yourself out there, then he’s a jerk and how lucky you are that you found out so soon!†Let’s continue to find out how smart my friends are: 1. What pick up lines do you think would work? What has worked? Maybe it’s not a pick up line, it’s just the first thing you say. How do you get the ball rolling aka the conversation started? Simply, “I think it would vary depending on what you’re looking for, but in general, it’s easy. Just go up and strike up a conversation without being disrespectful and you should be cool.†Can you tell that a guy wrote that? I totally get where he’s coming from, but if you want a bit more advice on what to say when you’re in the situation where you’re intrigued by a guy, it’s all about the first question. I recently watched a video below by a (hot AND English) dating coach of sorts named Matthew Hussey. The best suggestion he gave was starting with something really interesting. “How are you? What’s your name? How you doin’?†etc. can work, but it’s boring, right? So, come up with a funny question or compliment that will entice him into continuing the conversation. Things like “I love that sweater! Did Santa bring it to you?†or “Aren’t you tall?†then apprising him. Say something that will automatically make him want to start talking more to you, if only to find out if you’re into him. The idea, according to Hussey, is to create “but wait!†moments. I was recently in a liquor store on a Saturday night on my way to a party. I couldn’t decide what to get, so I walked up and down the aisles, catching the eye of an attractive man doing the same thing. My guts weren’t big enough yet, but it was the perfect opportunity to strike up a conversation: “I’m on my way to a party. Do you have any suggestions for what to bring?†or “What’s your favorite cocktail?†This list could go on, but the point is, he was cute and I was a wimp. No phone numbers were exchanged. Another guy friend said that he’d love it if a girl came up to him at a coffee shop or outdoor patio and said: “I’ve never been one to drink coffee alone, can I pull up a chair?†It’s corny, but it gets the point across…I am interested, hear me roar. Once I was in a coffee shop reading a book when a guy came up to me and said, “I love that book!†Conversation was struck! Okay, who loves Serial ? I emphatically do! And so do 5,000,000 other people apparently. A friend was telling me this story about how on the train a guy approached a girl because he saw that she was listening to Serial . They exchanged phone numbers by the end of the train ride. It was simple as that! These are just examples to prove the point that it isn’t that difficult and doesn’t have to be overtly sexual. But, if you prefer the flirtation route, many of my friends suggest the eye contact + smile. It’s a simple technique, but it certainly can work. 2. Where do you meet guys in real life? Where do you suggest girls meet guys IRL? Some ideas: volunteering, grocery store, etc or you can check out these 7 ideas for IRL matching. Kelly: “I’ve met people in a bar, at a group dinner, online, in a coffee shop, in school, at work, at a NYE party, wherever. My point is, it doesn’t matter where you are. If you think of everywhere (the street, the gym, any of those places I mentioned before) as a potential place to meet someone, you will open yourself to the possibility. Look at people you find attractive–see who looks back. They don’t always return the look–and they don’t always say something even if they do–but it opens your eyes to who is looking, at least.†Samantha: “Through friends i.e. went to a house party at the weekend and had a cuddle with my friend’s flatmate, put yourself in new situations out of your comfort zone is my best advice, go tothat gathering where you only know one person and you never know who you will meet!†Another friend suggested doing things you like. That doesn’t sound so hard! You like yoga? Go to a workshop on hand stands. Enjoy volleyball?
Article about how to meet guys in real life:
Get off-line. Ashley shares how to meet guys in real life. How To Meet Guys In Real Life.
Click here for How to meet guys in real life
Inspired by my recent online dating hiatus, I emailed a few friends asking about their experience with how to meet guys in real life (aka IRL for you text-savvy folks). I posed a few crucial questions to my friends and received some great responses and thought that this would make for a great post for what has apparently turned into my dating blog. The resounding result from this survey was that girls need to have some guts to get the guys! Guts = guys! We girls choose not to approach a guy because we’re afraid of rejection (maybe he’s married, maybe he thinks I’m not cute enough, maybe he’ll say no, maybe he’ll be a jerk about it, etc.), but as one guy friend* put it: “If the guy takes it negatively, they probably got bigger drama you wouldn’t want to deal with anyways.†* I also asked a few guy friends to give me their perspective. In the similar words of a girl friend: “One thing […] is that if you think you can’t do that, or you don’t do that (like flirting, or whatever), then you won’t. Making a connection with someone is easy, so long as you put yourself out there and don’t get embarrassed in the process[…]. And if someone is a jerk when you put yourself out there, then he’s a jerk and how lucky you are that you found out so soon!†Let’s continue to find out how smart my friends are: 1. What pick up lines do you think would work? What has worked? Maybe it’s not a pick up line, it’s just the first thing you say. How do you get the ball rolling aka the conversation started? Simply, “I think it would vary depending on what you’re looking for, but in general, it’s easy. Just go up and strike up a conversation without being disrespectful and you should be cool.†Can you tell that a guy wrote that? I totally get where he’s coming from, but if you want a bit more advice on what to say when you’re in the situation where you’re intrigued by a guy, it’s all about the first question. I recently watched a video below by a (hot AND English) dating coach of sorts named Matthew Hussey. The best suggestion he gave was starting with something really interesting. “How are you? What’s your name? How you doin’?†etc. can work, but it’s boring, right? So, come up with a funny question or compliment that will entice him into continuing the conversation. Things like “I love that sweater! Did Santa bring it to you?†or “Aren’t you tall?†then apprising him. Say something that will automatically make him want to start talking more to you, if only to find out if you’re into him. The idea, according to Hussey, is to create “but wait!†moments. I was recently in a liquor store on a Saturday night on my way to a party. I couldn’t decide what to get, so I walked up and down the aisles, catching the eye of an attractive man doing the same thing. My guts weren’t big enough yet, but it was the perfect opportunity to strike up a conversation: “I’m on my way to a party. Do you have any suggestions for what to bring?†or “What’s your favorite cocktail?†This list could go on, but the point is, he was cute and I was a wimp. No phone numbers were exchanged. Another guy friend said that he’d love it if a girl came up to him at a coffee shop or outdoor patio and said: “I’ve never been one to drink coffee alone, can I pull up a chair?†It’s corny, but it gets the point across…I am interested, hear me roar. Once I was in a coffee shop reading a book when a guy came up to me and said, “I love that book!†Conversation was struck! Okay, who loves Serial ? I emphatically do! And so do 5,000,000 other people apparently. A friend was telling me this story about how on the train a guy approached a girl because he saw that she was listening to Serial . They exchanged phone numbers by the end of the train ride. It was simple as that! These are just examples to prove the point that it isn’t that difficult and doesn’t have to be overtly sexual. But, if you prefer the flirtation route, many of my friends suggest the eye contact + smile. It’s a simple technique, but it certainly can work. 2. Where do you meet guys in real life? Where do you suggest girls meet guys IRL? Some ideas: volunteering, grocery store, etc or you can check out these 7 ideas for IRL matching. Kelly: “I’ve met people in a bar, at a group dinner, online, in a coffee shop, in school, at work, at a NYE party, wherever. My point is, it doesn’t matter where you are. If you think of everywhere (the street, the gym, any of those places I mentioned before) as a potential place to meet someone, you will open yourself to the possibility. Look at people you find attractive–see who looks back. They don’t always return the look–and they don’t always say something even if they do–but it opens your eyes to who is looking, at least.†Samantha: “Through friends i.e. went to a house party at the weekend and had a cuddle with my friend’s flatmate, put yourself in new situations out of your comfort zone is my best advice, go tothat gathering where you only know one person and you never know who you will meet!†Another friend suggested doing things you like. That doesn’t sound so hard! You like yoga? Go to a workshop on hand stands. Enjoy volleyball?