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10 principles that transformed my ability to make meaningful friendships over the years. Very long but I hope it helps someone. Some advice if you feel How to stop being lonely and make friends.
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10 principles that transformed my ability to make meaningful friendships over the years. Very long but I hope it helps someone. Some advice if you feel lonely (from somebody who cares). 10 Principles that helped me develop many meaningful friendships. (long but hopefully it helps somebody). Please don't just read the bullet-points, if you are actually struggling with this, it is definitely worth 5 minutes of your time to read all of this. First of all, for those of you that know me, you know that I sincerely care about people. In my time here on Reddit, I've noticed that many people feel very lonely. I've spent the last year reaching out to people in this situation. I used to be very lonely but I figured out some things that have really helped me. My message is to those of you who feel very lonely and feel that you have few or no friends (please take it with a grain of salt an know that my advice comes from a good place.). This lengthy post is a mixutre of my unique insight, books and articles I have read, triall and error, and advice I have gotten of the years. I'm not even going to pretend to know why you might be lonely. It might be because of your poor choices, other peoples choices, social issues, political climates, economic reasons, a tough marriage, or even mental illness. However, over the years, I have had some great success finding and making meaningful friendships and relationships throughout life and wanted to offer some advice for those of you who feel lonely. 1.) You have value that you can add to a friendship : You have something to offer others. Even if you are, socially awkward individual, or you have burned a lot of bridges" or struggle with "personal issues", you have (or at the minimum can develop) redeeming qualities that can benefit another person's life. Almost, everyone, at a minimum, can offer a listening ear for somebody else. So many people believe that they themselves are "garbage" and "why would anybody want to be friends with me." Here is the secret, since so many people believe that they are "worthless" but are at the same time lonely, by the laws of simple mathematics, this means that there are plenty of people that actually need you (for example, that “somebody else†that thinks these same things about them-selves could use you as a friend). Believing that you have value to add is the start of confidence that can give you courage to make friends. If you can't find this confidence, fake it. 2.) You must be the initiator, at least at first Let me be frank, initially, people are not going to be "calling you" to do something with them. You'll have to get over this if you want friends and meaningful relationships Truthfully, very few people have the courage, will-power, confidence, and energy to initiate a new social friendship. Like yourself, others are afraid of rejection, bothering you, or finding the creativity to do stuff. This is not a "sign" that the whole world has rejected you, it is a sign that other people struggle in a similar way as you.
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10 principles that transformed my ability to make meaningful friendships over the years. Very long but I hope it helps someone. Some advice if you feel How to stop being lonely and make friends.
ENTER TO THE SITE
10 principles that transformed my ability to make meaningful friendships over the years. Very long but I hope it helps someone. Some advice if you feel lonely (from somebody who cares). 10 Principles that helped me develop many meaningful friendships. (long but hopefully it helps somebody). Please don't just read the bullet-points, if you are actually struggling with this, it is definitely worth 5 minutes of your time to read all of this. First of all, for those of you that know me, you know that I sincerely care about people. In my time here on Reddit, I've noticed that many people feel very lonely. I've spent the last year reaching out to people in this situation. I used to be very lonely but I figured out some things that have really helped me. My message is to those of you who feel very lonely and feel that you have few or no friends (please take it with a grain of salt an know that my advice comes from a good place.). This lengthy post is a mixutre of my unique insight, books and articles I have read, triall and error, and advice I have gotten of the years. I'm not even going to pretend to know why you might be lonely. It might be because of your poor choices, other peoples choices, social issues, political climates, economic reasons, a tough marriage, or even mental illness. However, over the years, I have had some great success finding and making meaningful friendships and relationships throughout life and wanted to offer some advice for those of you who feel lonely. 1.) You have value that you can add to a friendship : You have something to offer others. Even if you are, socially awkward individual, or you have burned a lot of bridges" or struggle with "personal issues", you have (or at the minimum can develop) redeeming qualities that can benefit another person's life. Almost, everyone, at a minimum, can offer a listening ear for somebody else. So many people believe that they themselves are "garbage" and "why would anybody want to be friends with me." Here is the secret, since so many people believe that they are "worthless" but are at the same time lonely, by the laws of simple mathematics, this means that there are plenty of people that actually need you (for example, that “somebody else†that thinks these same things about them-selves could use you as a friend). Believing that you have value to add is the start of confidence that can give you courage to make friends. If you can't find this confidence, fake it. 2.) You must be the initiator, at least at first Let me be frank, initially, people are not going to be "calling you" to do something with them. You'll have to get over this if you want friends and meaningful relationships Truthfully, very few people have the courage, will-power, confidence, and energy to initiate a new social friendship. Like yourself, others are afraid of rejection, bothering you, or finding the creativity to do stuff. This is not a "sign" that the whole world has rejected you, it is a sign that other people struggle in a similar way as you.
I want more female friends
I want more friends
I want to meet new friends